Just between me & you, babe...

...so, you do something (not for the first time) that hurts me, I let you know that in rational terms, you not only don't apologize or make it right, but don't even acknowledge my request for an explanation, give me your usual BS response to questions you don't want to answer...

and you think it's all somehow hunky dory, send me a "poke" on Facebook today after I unfriended you due to my hurt over your actions. Well, gosh, honey, I guess that makes *me* the Wicked Witch of the East in your eyes, huh? Have you any capacity for self-examination, or for accepting your own fault in doing things that are hurtful to others? Do you ever say you're sorry for anything, to anyone? Do you even care that you did something hurtful to me, and that all I asked for was for you to explain, make it right(which would have required no more effort on your part than the click of a flipping button, for crying out loud), and you'd be forgiven? No, you chose instead to insult me. You treated me like I deserve to be abused. Guess what, I have a different opinion of myself, I don't have to accept abuse from anyone. I know that I have value as a person, as a woman. I know that I am loved and valued by others, even if you think you have the luxury in your own mind of devaluing me. Guess what, I just took that privilege away from you. You won't get it back.

I didn't say that I would never forgive you, I am an absolute believer in always leaving forgiveness and reconciliation open as an option. I am saying I'm probably less forgiving than God (I ain't perfect, and the Lyle Lovett song "God Does" springs to mind, as you know I love to make musical references all the time), and you need to make more of an effort than I've seen you do so far. So, the question is: will you? Or are you too proud/stubborn? It's your call. I don't control you, but you won't abuse my feelings with my consent. You won't turn me into a doormat. Been there, done that, earned me a passel of t-shirts in that department, am totally done with it. Understand, I need to make sure I never end up that miserable again. You've already come close to putting me there on a few occasions. I don't intend to give you that much power over me again.