The background:

"gotta tell you, mornings are ruf, I wake up so horny most of them lol"

Why did you share this with me? I wondered at the time...was it to make me get worked up, or something else? It's still kind of been in the back of my mind. Help me out here, is there something I don't understand? I know you are not ready to be involved with someone now, but, honestly, is this about trying to keep me hoping for something in the future? And, is there any reason I should? I'm not trying to make you feel bad, just confused. And...well, confused. Yes, that's probably the best way to describe it. Perhaps best that I not elaborate. Not trying to make you feel bad for expressing yourself, please don't take it that way. I'm just honestly...confused. Or, conflicted? Or, something like that. I guess I got to feeling things ....ok, that is enough info for you to go with, really. Just asking you...are you hoping for something in the future, or just teasing me, and need to be honest about that? Or, what?

I'm going to trust you to be honest with me, I really have no reason to doubt you on that. Don't worry about hurting me, better to be truthful than to give someone false hope, yes?

J

Sorry for the late response, but I just got in from Miami this afternoon.

I apologize for the comment that you have in quotes, I was simply stating how I felt that morning, and it was inappropriate.

As I have stated before, I can see us being friends. In answering one of your questions, I am not trying to keep you hoping for something more in the future. I do not see our friendship evolving into a long term romantic relationship.

I am sorry if anything I have said has confused you or given you false hopes, that was never my intention. It will not happen again.

H"

I am so angry right now, because he did in fact send those signals and give me false hopes, and that was just plain wrong. And, excuse me, you don't think I'm good enough for a long term romantic relationship? I am trying so hard at this moment not to resort to crude expletives. I am so much better than you realize, and this is not arrogance in any way.

I feel like putting my fist through some drywall, but haven't and won't. I feel like screaming and ranting about being led on, but haven't and won't. I hate being treated like my feelings are inconsequential. I hate being told that someone "didn't mean to give me false hopes" when the things they did clearly qualify. I'm scrupulously honest with people, and I'm sorry, it just makes me furious when I find out that they have been less than so with me. I'd rather be told, up front and honestly, "I don't know yet, it's possible my feelings could change", or "no, I really could never feel that way about you" AS SOON AS YOU KNOW IT, than feel as if you led me to believe there was a possibility I should wait for you to be ready. I'd honestly have a very difficult time actually being friends with you after this. If that makes me a bitch, so be it. I have been called worse, and gotten over it. But I honestly don't see how I have not been, in a certain sense, lied to. And I'm just not OK with that. Gee whiz, why not?